Netflix and cuddle

Published April 28, 2020

It’s not the amount of nook­ie in a mar­riage that indi­cates sat­is­fac­tion (found Binghamton University researchers) — it’s those gen­tle every­day touch­es.

For men, high­er lev­els of rou­tine affec­tion are asso­ci­at­ed with rela­tion­ship sat­is­fac­tion; in oth­er words, touch is a pos­i­tive, the icing on the mar­riage cake. For women, low­er lev­els of rou­tine affec­tion cor­re­lat­ed with rela­tion­ship dis­sat­is­fac­tion, mean­ing that touch is an essen­tial ingre­di­ent and its absence is a neg­a­tive. It’s a sub­tle distinction.

Two more tidbits:

  • “[T]here’s some evi­dence that hold­ing your partner’s hand while you’re argu­ing de-esca­lates the argu­ment and makes it more productive.”
  • Lead author Samantha Wagner “empha­sized that the study focused only on healthy, con­sen­su­al touch.”
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